Bringing Sexy Back: Bondage for Beginners

Curious about tying up your partner?  Or being restrained yourself?   Bondage may not be for everyone, but many feel less inhibited, and able to explore sexual fantasies and enjoy sex in a way they don't allow themselves to otherwise. 

Lets get started with a few bondage basics!

Improvise with everyday items- wrists tied together with a silk scarf are pretty darn sexy!   If you do use rope, make sure it has a fairly soft feel, and leave enough space to insert a finger between the body and rope. Cutting off circulation is not what we are going for here!   

Rope can be used in a very basic manner to restrain, but if you are feeling artistic, there are some graceful and really fun ways to restrain your partner and create a little work of art at the same time.  Two Knotty Boys have some brief and easy to follow videos on YouTube you may want to watch for some ideas.   Our Hotel Affair erotic gift set contains about 30' of soft cotton rope - plenty for your own creations!

Wrist/Ankle cuffs and collars are a bit more formal, but do have the advantage of being easy to secure.  Most are soft and wide, making them comfortable to wear.  Cuffs/restraints are available in basic to expert levels of craftsmanship, giving you lots of choices if you get REALLY interested in bondage.  Most cuffs/collars have D-shaped metal rings on them which makes it easy to attach to something else with clips.  The Novel Erotics "Evening Tea" sexy gift box is available with restraints perfect for the beginner.

Collars and leashes just get us all hot and bothered here  - it's so fun to 'take control' of your partner and give them instructions to please you.  There are a number of individuals who love wearing a collar or some other form of submission during 'playtime'.  Sometimes, it is just a simple way for someone to give up control and decision making - just enjoying the moment.

Trust is an important part of bondage - which is why long term relationships are a great place to experiment.  Even if you feel you know your partner inside and out, safe words are important for quick communication with each other, without ruining the mood. 

We suggest something simple and easy to remember, like green/yellow/red.  Just like a stoplight, green indicates full speed ahead, yellow means slow down/pause a moment, and red should be used when play should be completely and immediately stopped.

Hopefully this brief tutorial has given you your own ideas to explore!

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